Connect with authenticity

Here’s a big word: authenticity.

Authenticity—the practice of acting and communicating in authentic, that is, genuine ways—can be surprisingly difficult to do. There’s so much at stake. For better or worse, a person’s words and actions not only influence others’ perceptions of him or her, but they also affect the way people feel about themselves. In fact, the pressure to meet others’ expectations and personal agendas can cause people to act outside their true nature, creating friction in their relationships and a divide between their beliefs and actions.

 Yet authenticity is at the heart of meaningful expression and genuine interactions. It grounds personal relationships, business affairs, discovery work, and creative pursuits in solid principles that can be felt. More than that, authentic behavior has been shown to benefit a person’s self-esteem and sense of well-being.

In her bestseller, “Presence” (Little, Brown and Company, first edition Dec. 2015), social psychologist Amy Cuddy discussed how it’s not enough to determine which values, traits and strengths align with a person’s authentic self, but that it’s also important to affirm and trust in them. From the book (page 46, first edition), Cuddy said, “You must believe them. They tell an important part of your personal story and if you don’t believe your story, why would anyone else?” 

Often, creative work that’s rooted in authenticity seems to flow into manifestation. It has a genuine quality that pulls people in with its realness, opening the way for expansive connections and inspirations. It’s no wonder that we’re attracted to individuals, books, movies, companies, schools, organizations—really, all things—that ring with authenticity. Our connections to them feel real, like something (or someone) that stands on firm ground; that is based in an honest experience or expression.

So, go for it. Take the time to look within, assess your values and live them as best as you can. Then ground your painting, writing, videos, research or other creative pursuit in your truth and see it soar.

Tips on building authenticity:

·         Spot inconsistencies: Watch for differences between your behaviors and beliefs and if needed, adjust your actions as you go along. Be sure that what you say and do align with your values.

·         Dig into doubts: Consider thoughts, feelings and experiences that bring up a sense of doubt. Think about what’s at the root of the feeling and whether a change that affirms your authentic self is needed.  

·         Tell the truth. Telling white lies may seem like the kindest or easiest way to get through an uncomfortable situation but dishonest expression moves people away from authenticity and meaningful relationships. Trust in your truth and others will, too.

·         Pursue your purpose. Steeping yourself in your highest desires is a great way for authentic expression to shine. Authentic behavior follows deep beliefs, so connect with your top ideals in tangible ways. You won’t be the only one who notices the realization of your convictions.

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/201904/develop-authenticity-20-ways-be-more-authentic-person

Karen Maserjian Shan is a communications professional, editor and writer with an expertise in connecting people and businesses through written communications in print and digital platforms.